Over time, I realised that the problem was not only the number of emails, but how I related to them. Every message felt personal, urgent, and demanding, even when it wasn’t.

A simple rule helped me regain control.

Role or person?

When an email arrives, I now ask myself one question:

Is this email addressed to my role, or to me as a person?

• If it is about my role (professor, editor, committee member, coordinator):
  I reply in a standardised way, efficiently and without emotional involvement.

• If it is about me as a person (a genuine question, a request for advice, a thoughtful exchange): I consciously decide if and when to respond.

That’s it. No complex system. No productivity app.

Why this works

This small distinction creates distance where distance is needed, and intention where intention matters.

By separating role-based obligations from personal communication, the emotional and mental load drops significantly, in my experience, by 20–30%. Emails stop competing equally for attention, and decisions become clearer and calmer.

Not every message deserves the same cognitive space.

Sometimes, surviving academia is less about doing more, and more about deciding what deserves you.